The Save The Marriage Podcast
Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.
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You hit the Pause Button on your marriage. I get it. You didn't realize you were doing it, and didn't know it was a problem. You just thought you were dealing with life -- the kids, a career, activities... life.
But while you didn't know it was a problem, it is. In fact, it is the big reason that marriages get into trouble. Yes, there are lots of symptoms of the problem. The underlying problem, though, is disconnection... from hitting the Pause.
Relationships don't go into suspended animation, just awaiting re-animation. Nope, they are either growing or receding. And a paused relationship is receding.
Then, suddenly, you realize there is a problem. It was brewing for awhile. But since you were disconnected, you missed the signs. Until it was a crisis.
And then, you go from Pause Button to Panic Button.
Now, you have to deal with both the paused marriage and the panic problem. You have to find a way to heal the disconnection AND deal with the crisis.
How do you do it?
We talk about it on this week's episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast. You can listen below.
RELATED RESOURCES
Why Pause Is A Problem
The 7 Stages of Disconnection
Healing Disconnection
Save The Marriage System
But while you didn't know it was a problem, it is. In fact, it is the big reason that marriages get into trouble. Yes, there are lots of symptoms of the problem. The underlying problem, though, is disconnection... from hitting the Pause.
Relationships don't go into suspended animation, just awaiting re-animation. Nope, they are either growing or receding. And a paused relationship is receding.
Then, suddenly, you realize there is a problem. It was brewing for awhile. But since you were disconnected, you missed the signs. Until it was a crisis.
And then, you go from Pause Button to Panic Button.
Now, you have to deal with both the paused marriage and the panic problem. You have to find a way to heal the disconnection AND deal with the crisis.
How do you do it?
We talk about it on this week's episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast. You can listen below.
RELATED RESOURCES
Why Pause Is A Problem
The 7 Stages of Disconnection
Healing Disconnection
Save The Marriage System
Previous episodes
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860 - From Pause Button to Panic Button Thu, 02 May 2024 - 0h
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859 - No, this will NOT fix your marriage! (but it’s the #1 request in therapy) Wed, 24 Apr 2024 - 0h
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858 - Dealing With an Indifferent Spouse Wed, 03 Apr 2024 - 0h
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857 - 3 Failpoints You Face Wed, 27 Mar 2024 - 0h
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856 - Milestones and Markers — 500 Episodes! Thu, 21 Mar 2024 - 0h
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855 - The Trick to Saving Your Marriage Wed, 13 Mar 2024 - 0h
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854 - Facing FACTs Thu, 07 Mar 2024 - 0h
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853 - How to Get Help for Your Marriage… and Mistakes To Avoid Wed, 28 Feb 2024 - 0h
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852 - The Connection Trap Wed, 21 Feb 2024 - 0h
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851 - The Pause Problem Wed, 14 Feb 2024 - 0h
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850 - 7 Complicators to Your Efforts to Save Your Marriage Wed, 24 Jan 2024 - 0h
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849 - Dealing with Depression and a Marriage Crisis Wed, 17 Jan 2024 - 0h
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848 - The Ghosts of Your Relationship Past Wed, 20 Dec 2023 - 0h
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847 - Stuck in the Negative Wed, 13 Dec 2023 - 0h
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846 - Dealing with Disrespect and Boundaries Wed, 06 Dec 2023 - 0h
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845 - Why You Can’t Force Connection Wed, 29 Nov 2023 - 0h
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844 - Dealing with a Heavy Holiday — in the midst of a marriage crisis Tue, 21 Nov 2023 - 0h
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843 - How the Created Past Hurts Your Marriage Wed, 15 Nov 2023 - 0h
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842 - Are Things Improving?? How do you know?? Wed, 08 Nov 2023 - 0h
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841 - Take These 3 Steps To Save Your Marriage Mon, 30 Oct 2023 - 0h
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840 - Why Your Spouse Can’t See A Way Forward Thu, 12 Oct 2023 - 0h
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839 - The Road to Divorce: 8 Stops Wed, 04 Oct 2023 - 0h
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838 - The 7 Stages of Disconnection Wed, 27 Sep 2023 - 0h
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837 - Why You Aren’t Getting Started Wed, 20 Sep 2023 - 0h
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836 - Are You Showing Up?? Wed, 16 Aug 2023 - 0h
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835 - When Your Spouse Has Lost Hope Wed, 19 Jul 2023 - 0h
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834 - The Perception/Connection Trap Wed, 12 Jul 2023 - 0h
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833 - Apology ≠ Forgiving Wed, 05 Jul 2023 - 0h
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832 - The Blame – Shame Trap Wed, 28 Jun 2023 - 0h
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831 - Derailed? Why and what to do… Wed, 31 May 2023 - 0h
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830 - Saving your marriage… 2 dangerous approaches Wed, 17 May 2023 - 0h
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829 - Changing… and proving it Wed, 26 Apr 2023 - 0h
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828 - Finding the Energy to Continue Wed, 12 Apr 2023 - 0h
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827 - “I need space!” — that’s tough! Wed, 29 Mar 2023 - 0h
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826 - Enemies, Victims, or…. Wed, 22 Mar 2023 - 0h
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825 - Dragged Under Wed, 15 Mar 2023 - 0h
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824 - 4 Failing Fears Wed, 01 Mar 2023 - 0h
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823 - It Isn’t Just About Romance Wed, 15 Feb 2023 - 0h
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822 - Is a Marriage Intensive for You? Wed, 08 Feb 2023 - 0h
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821 - The Marriage Murdering Myth Wed, 01 Feb 2023 - 0h
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820 - Sharing Power Wed, 18 Jan 2023 - 0h
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819 - Helping or Hurting?? Wed, 04 Jan 2023 - 0h
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818 - A-ha Moment or Slow Turn-Around? Wed, 14 Dec 2022 - 0h
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817 - Staying Together for the Wrong Reasons?? Wed, 07 Dec 2022 - 0h
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816 - Your Spouse Isn’t… Wed, 30 Nov 2022 - 0h
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815 - The Next Phase: Chronic or Thriving? Wed, 16 Nov 2022 - 0h
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814 - Is It Too Toxic?? Wed, 09 Nov 2022 - 0h
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813 - The Dangers of Emotions and Decisions Wed, 02 Nov 2022 - 0h
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812 - Why “Limbo” is a Lie Wed, 26 Oct 2022 - 0h
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811 - Midlife Marriage Crisis and Connecting Wed, 05 Oct 2022 - 0h
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